Top Maid of Honor Duties
Send this to your MOH, brides. ;)
Weddings aren't what they used to be... they're often more extravagant, more planned out, and a much "bigger" celebration overall than they were in the past. That includes lots of celebrating before and after the big day, too! This is where your Maid of Honor/Matron of Honor will come in! Many brides choose a sister, relative, or best friend as their "go to girl" to help them with all the wedding planning and fun!
So, if you're a Maid of Honor or Matron of Honor, here are the main things that should be at the top of your radar leading up to the wedding:
Be the main party planner! The bride will so be looking forward to having your help planning the bachelorette party, bridal shower, and leading the rest of the bridal party throughout your wedding festivities! The Maid of Honor should be in tune with the bride's likes, dislikes, theme/style, and overall itinerary of all of the events! You'll want to be the "main point of contact" and hopefully this will take some stress off of the bride answering endless questions and sharing details with family members and friends! Helping the bride keep track of all gifts at the bridal shower and wedding will be a huge help too so the couple can write thank you notes afterwards.
Connect all the bridesmaids! Send an intro email or group text that introduces everyone and gives a heads up on the festivities to come! A group email or group text will be so helpful in getting to know each other, sharing information with everyone at once, and ensuring you all stay on the same page! The group email or text is where you can discuss bachelorette party plans, the bridal shower, bridesmaids dresses, jewelry, shoes, what to pack, hotel details, and more!
Coordinate wedding dress shopping with the bride! As the Maid of Honor, you can help the bride research bridal shops and types of dresses she loves! Calling different shops to reserve appointments for her will be a huge help! If the bride knows what kind of dress she wants, you can help her hunt for the perfect one! And if she's keeping her options open, she would probably appreciate your help picking out styles you think would look fabulous on her! Ensuring she enjoys the wedding dress shopping process and stays relaxed is key, as well!
Offer to help with DIY projects, save the dates, invitations, creating gift registries, the wedding website, and more! Having someone to bounce ideas off of, get a second set of eyes on, or simply offering a helping hand in some of these wedding duties will be so helpful for the bride! The bride and groom will have a lot to think about, a lot to budget for, and some major decisions to make... so any help that you can offer with some of the "little things" can help them a ton!
Prepare a wedding survival kit for the Bridal Suite or wherever you will be getting ready with the girls! Having a bag full of deodorant, perfume, body wipes, makeup, female toiletries, gum, mints, water, and maybe even a few snacks will always come in handy!
Prepare a speech for the reception! It's a great idea to include a short story of how you and the bride met and maybe a fun anecdote that helps everyone get to know your friendship, but the majority of the speech should be about the couple! Start by jotting down ideas throughout the months prior to the wedding and then you can polish it up closer to the big day!
And on the big day...
This is probably the most important! Being the Maid of Honor is an all-day job on wedding day.
Starting out, you'll want to make sure the bride wakes up relaxed, with plenty of time to do her morning routine or do whatever she wants to do before the festivities really start rolling! Make sure she gets water and breakfast (and her favorite coffee!) in early so she feels good and is energized for the day.
Assist the entire wedding party (including Mother of the Bride and Groom) in making sure everything is on track! This should include staying on top of the itinerary, helping the crew get organized for hair and makeup, communicating with vendors, fetching snacks and drinks, making sure all decor is set, greeting guests as they come in, etc.
Snap some photos and video clips throughout the entire day. The bride will likely want to be unplugged (as much as possible!) so she can soak it all in, but she will want to remember the little moments forever! Snapping quick photos while the bridal party is drinking coffee, getting ready, sipping cocktails, toasting, and laughing together will be probably be some of the photos that the bride will cherish the most!
Make sure the bride and her partner don't run into each other before she walks down the aisle (if they choose to take part in this tradition, that is!). Coordinating this with vendors (specifically the photographer, videographer, and hair and makeup team) can be helpful too since they will be there during the getting ready process. If they choose to exchange gifts on their big day, communicate with the bride to see if she wants your help with that or if they will plan to do so privately at the end of the night.
Help the bride get dressed. This is likely the most important (and expensive) dress she will ever wear, so having your help with the bustle, train, and even getting in and out of her dress to use the restroom throughout the day and night will be a huge help. Having her undergarments, jewelry, accessories, and shoes laid out ahead of time will reduce scrambling or juggling through different bags to find them in a rush, too. This tip also includes being her personal stylist throughout the day! Don't hesitate to fix a piece of hair, smooth out her dress, or help her touch up her makeup throughout the day. She trusts you and she wants to look her best on her special day, with your help!
Before the ceremony, you'll want to make sure the best man has the rings (and is guarding them with his life) unless you choose to hang on to them instead. Help the wedding party stay on track with the timeline of when the ceremony starts, answer any last minute questions, and be sure to gather the crew (before and after the ceremony) for all the photos that the photographer and bride have planned! As the beautiful bride walks down the aisle, soak in the moment! As soon as she meets her partner at the altar, grab her bouquet so her hands are free. As soon as the couple says "I do", you can give her bouquet back so she can have it as she walks down the aisle as a married woman!
Last, but certainly not least... Make sure the bride (and everyone else for that matter) has a blast! As the point of contact, you'll have a lot of responsibility, but probably the most important one is mitigating stress and making sure everyone has a good time... that's what it's all about! By the time the ceremony is over, the rest of the night should be relaxed, fun, and of course... celebrated on the dance floor! Make sure the bride never goes without a dance partner or without a smile on her face... or a drink in her hand!
Cheers to you, Maid of Honor! She chose you for a reason... and you'll be amazing!
What other Maid of Honor duties would you add to this list? We would love to hear from you!